I felt like the outside world thought my life was becoming more and more selfish. But what was really happening… I began to break through the bubble that society had built around my life. I stopped doing a lot of “shit” that did not matter to me, things that left me with a feeling of emptiness. It took a lot of time and courage to face the relationships, habits, environments and deeply programmed person to break into aligning my life around what mattered most… living each day in alignment with my life’s purpose.
To use my passions for adventure, health and the great outdoors to inspire, empower and lead people to reach their next summit in life and the mountains.
The great mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for. Fyodor Dostoyevsky
I have come to believe wholeheartedly that each and every person has been placed on this planet for a greater purpose than to simply exist in a predefined bubble. When I look at some of my most successful and happiest friends in my network, I see them living there passions with purpose. They seem to be so much happier than other people I see in our world. What makes these individuals so different is.. they took the time to figure out what they loved doing, what they were good at, how they could use it to help others, and how they could make a living doing it. Then most importantly, they went out and did it.
Today, they are professional skiers, leaders in the health and wellness industry, filmmakers, wealth advisors, authors, people doing epic shit that deeply matters to them and makes our world a better place.
KNOW WHY YOUR HERE
See, you don’t know what you need or deeply desire out of life until you take time to objectively look at who you are now, and who you want to be in 5, 10, 15 years time. And if you don’t like what you see based on your current trajectory, you need to choose a different path. Immediately. And, that path can become clear starting today, in the next hours time while you digest what has been written here.
Too many people these days jump into a relationship, career, or geographic change when deep inside they have no idea what they really need or desire.
Now, I understand you might dust this under the rug as an unimportant task or to-do item, or someone just talking on social media, but please put some serious heart to this work. It matters, because it will inspire everything that you do in your life that follows it and our world needs more people just like you living on purpose. Because quite simply, without your purpose as your internal compass to guide you on your map of goals, they might not ultimately fulfill you. You will do what I did for years… continue accumulated external things that did not fill my internal void. In fact the void got bigger, darker and emptier.
MY JOURNEY TO PURPOSE
Before jumping in, I’d like to share a small piece of my own story.
Contrary to the epic shit I share on social media, a lot of people do not know that for the first two and a half decades of my life I lacked a lot of self confidence. In school I was labeled a misfit, and all my actions aligned with it as such. I experimented with everything from drugs to relationships, to doing well in school and doing horribly bad. But one thing was always consistent, life felt best when I was in the outdoors, helping others, connected to nature and friends, doing things that brought me joy, and frankly when society said I had to go to school M-F for 8 hours a day, I found myself happier causing trouble than “doing what they said” was the right way to live. I’d get suspended, detentions, etc. because I was always going against the grain. Sometimes my grades would flourish and others time they’d tank. While I did end up making it through uni, in many ways it was not the path I ever wanted to walk, but something that my parents and the world pushed me toward as the next right step up the ladder of life.
Through all of this I lacked a clear purpose and how I could make something out of my passions. I did not believe in myself and was unconfident about my potential, so while I felt my life going in some amazing directions at times, it always came crashing back down when the noise from the external world got so loud that it became my reality. I took the corporate job, partied my brains out, and was on track to get married into a relationship I really was not happy with. I was on this path of a miserable “societally defined purpose”, invisible beliefs were controlling my life.
And as Thomas Cooley says, “I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am ” – meaning we are literally living in a perception of a perception of ourselves. Or, I am just a version of what I believe you think I am.
Then this day arrived where I started giving it all up. I gave up the big promotion to “director” in the corporate job, the relationship I was not happy in, the bubble that had me trapped in a 2 weeks of vacation cycle per year. Sadly, it took me 2 more years to give up the drugs and alcohol that had clouded my life so much that the only thing I could do was what was in front of me, but when that happened, something else happened, I got clear on why I was here.
PERSONAL LIFE PURPOSE STATEMENT TO INSPIRE YOU
My life’s purpose today is to use my passions for adventure, health and the great outdoors to inspire, empower and lead people to reach their next summit in life and the mountains. I live this purpose in my life wholeheartedly and hope that it inspires you on your own path of self discovery. Today, I am an adventure athlete with a dream of rebuilding relationships in the skiing and climbing industry leading to a professional athletic career, I help adventurous men in recovery become their best healthiest selves through health coaching, I have published my first book and started a series that will be published over the next fours years. This year I will lead my first adventure retreat in Nepal and visit Everest base camp with other fellow entrepreneurs. And, a dream has been awakened to become a certified rock climbing and ski guide.
Once you clearly know what your life’s purpose is then organizing your daily activities and goals around it is absolutely key. If something does not align then you would not pursue it.
SELFLESS SERVICE DRIVEN SPIRIT – WHY AM I HERE?
Your purpose will combine two things… what you love doing or your passions, and how it can help others or what I call selfless service. The money, fortune and fame will become a byproduct of authentically and selflessly stepping into this higher version of yourself. You will find answers to some of your deepest questions like why am I here? How do I find that work that I simply can’t not do? How do I instill more joy into my life?
Living your purpose will empower you with the food to nourish the good wolf inside that is full of compassion, loving-kindness, and gratitude. While continuing down a path that lacks a sense of fulfillment will feed the bad wolf that is fed by envy, jealousy, and greed, which are only maximized with today’s media overload.
Ultimately living your purpose will bring you lasting fulfillment on neurochemical level which is much more sustainable than a bowl of ice cream, shitty food or line of cocaine.
CHILDLIKE JOYFUL LIVING WITH A COMPASS TO GUIDE YOU
You already have an inner guidance system that indicates when you are on purpose and when you are off purpose. It lights up with joy and laughter when you are on track and drains you with fatigue and frustration when you are off.
Take a few minutes to make a list of the top 10-15 things that have brought the most joy to your life in the last 6-12 months. This will help you to gain clarity on what passions in your life awaken you to your purpose.
Here are a few items on my list to help get your creative thoughts flowing.
- Coaching a mentee through his new relationship
- Publishing my first book to inspire others on their journey of realizing the life of their dreams
- Summiting Mt. Hood with a new group of friends
- Coaching a client through a business partnership while helping him heal from gastrointestinal issues
- Meeting inspiring people who have changed my life in many good ways
After creating your list, go back and highlight the words you wrote that have the most meaning to you along with the top three experiences on your list.
Then, make a list of your unique qualities, like creativity, compassion, enthusiasm, athleticism, and inspiration, for example.
Finally, use your lists to write one simple yet powerful statement that says how you use your unique qualities to make the world a better place through living the passions that ignite your internal fire to live each day with joy.
My purpose is to _____(one of your passions, strengths, or power words) to ____ (how living this will improve the world).
Here are a few examples to inspire you….
- To use my experience, strength and hope to inspire and empower people to get and stay sober.
- To lead, and empower the health and wellness industry toward solutions that integrate food, habits and lifestyle as solutions to chronic health problems.
- To use my vast knowledge of the mountains and skiing to inspire and empower others to become expert mountaineers.
If this exercise is too lengthy then just go out and start helping people, all the while being mindful of what you are helping people with when you feel the most joy. Passion will naturally begin to find you.
Your purpose is literally a mixture of your passions, selfless service, and naturally gifted strengths in action.
STAYING ON YOUR PATH OF PURPOSE
Once you have clearly defined your purpose, make sure to take a moment to review it once daily, preferably in the morning to help you awaken to people, and experiences that support that person you deeply desire to become.
WHAT IS COMING NEXT
In the following weeks I will be sharing experiences and exercises to gain clarity on what it is that you really want, and what goals do you aspire to achieve in the years to come. Your purpose will be a foundational guiding element to defining what these are. So please take this work to heart.
And, if you are interested in exploring your untapped potential, and getting through the barriers that are holding you back from stepping into the person capable of living the life of yours dreams in a 1-1 setting, then I invite you to book a free no obligation coaching session with me. This hour will likely be the greatest investment that you make into yourself all year and it is absolutely free. There is a link to my online calendar in this post, and I do hope that for your own personal growth you take advantage of this limited time offer.
Summit as Friends, and I will see you all next Wednesday.