How To Completely Change Yourself: The Key Every Man Is Missing

mindset Aug 11, 2021



How To Completely Change Yourself: The Key Every Man Is Missing

In today’s expert interview, I got the chance to speak with Timothy September. Tim is a friend, mentor, and coach of mine. He is a board certified hypnotherapist that has a passion for helping people unlock true emotional peace and inner freedom.

Tim has been someone that has had a profound impact on my life and really allowed me to shift away from my old self and step into who I really wanted to be.


This interview is REALLY powerful. There are some serious gems in this that could really change your life. If you’re not ready to go deep - this isn’t for you.

If you are someone, however, that wants to get to the truth of the matter and really find out what you could become - then you are going to LOVE this.

In the interview, we discuss:

  1. The key every man is missing when he is trying to change himself.

  2. Why you struggle to change your thoughts and the secret sauce to making it happen.

  3. How to gain emotional control so your emotions don’t control you.

 

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Transcript:

All right, Mike Morelli here from Peak prosper, and I'm here with a good friend and mentor, coach, Timothy September. Tim has been someone who's had a profound impact on my life. He's a hypnotherapist. He's a coach. And Jim, I'm gonna let you just give yourself your own intro in just a second. But yeah, Tim said, Tim has been someone that's had a tremendous impact on my life. And it only seems fitting to bring him on for an expert interview, so that Tim could really share a ton of just wisdom and knowledge. So without further ado, Tim, what's up, man? Oh, man, it thank you so much. My dude, like you, yourself have been an inspiration. I think, if anything, this interview is definitely going to kind of show that because like, man, like you have inspired me as much as you say that I've helped, you know, mentor you in whatever progression it is that you've been on your life journey. And I, I really think that that is probably the biggest aspect of these types of connections is that we're helping each other right. Yeah. And, and that's kind of kind of what I wanted, like my business my company to be about, right? So I'm Timothy September, I am I, the kind of person that you would bump into, and then suddenly, it's like, wow, who did this guy, you know, end up changing my life, even in a small conversation and, and the world needs you now, which is the company that I built is based around the client, it's about you, right? It's about helping you in your journey. And I do that through hypnotherapy, but board certified hypnotherapist with the American Board of hypnotherapy. And it is like one of the hardest boards to get into. But outside of all that it's been such an honor to not only be able to help you with your journey, dude, but also be inspired by you and by the work that you guys are doing. So thank you so much for letting me hop on this interview. Yeah, no, it's it's, it's a pleasure. And I think straight away just for the listeners here. I think a lot of people maybe have heard of hypnotherapy. If they have heard of it, and they don't have an understanding of it. I would venture to guess a lot of people would think that you're sitting in front of me with a with a with a watch, and I and you're getting me to like, ties in and then do whatever that you want me to do. Like you're controlling me and I'm like your puppet. Ron, can you actually explain the truth about what hypnotherapy is and why it's so valuable? Absolutely, it that's actually a great question. Because you're right, there's this myth behind what hypnosis is. And a lot of those come from, you know, movies, cartoons and the the old folk tales that people may have heard I fixation, which is where the whole concept of the pendulum or the you know, watch that's dangled, I fixation is a huge principle in hypnosis, it helps you to be able to like relax the mind and really get them focused on something. And that's the really the thing. It's that focus of attention. And so, in all reality, Hypnosis is a natural thing that happens. It's not one person is this super powerful being controlling another person. It's actually a collaborative effort, right? There's a, he's I've never personally met him because he's in the UK. However, his name is James Tripp. And he runs a company called hypnosis without trance. And the way that he describes hypnosis is brilliant, right? And he talks about this collaboration, where it's both people kind of facilitating the belief round and the expectation of using the imagination to bring about a hypnotic trance. And what that means in like, the easier simpler terms is that it's a it's an effort, right? It's not me controlling you. In fact, you all hypnosis is self hypnosis. So you're the only a person who can hypnotize yourself. All the hypnotist is doing and if I shatter anybody's dream of wanting to mind control people with hypnosis, I'm so sorry. Yeah, but all hypnotherapy is is me giving you direction on how to get into a hypnotic trance. You're doing all the work, right? I think like Mike, with your experience. So you could say that's pretty accurate, right? Yeah, it's absolutely accurate. We've done I think it's been four sessions together now. And yeah, it's guided meditation. That's if I could just explain it to like, in very simple like in a sentence, I would say to people, it's guided meditation, you guide me through a deep meditative experience where my brain is not you know, thinking and going nuts and I and I'm able to get to the root and reprogram maybe past storylines that were causing me emotional stress and pain into something that I want. Were reprogramming the way that I want to show up in the world and the emotions that I want to feel. So it's Yeah, I would say it's, it's been one of the most transformative things in my life and it's just simply nothing to fear. Or it's nothing to you never you were never controlling my mind or anything like that. So, um, yeah, yeah. Like you mentioned the guided hypnosis there. And that's actually it's it's close, right? Like, it's, it's very similar. The saying is that all meditation is hypnosis, but not all hypnosis is meditation, right? Like, we definitely have a lot of correlations, right? Like, there's a, this premise of relaxing and maybe sitting down somewhere where you can be comfortable, there's this thought of allowing the mind to kind of, you know, detach from the body, so to speak. And I think, to me, the major differences, right is that while there are different versions of meditation, like transcendental mindfulness, you know, loving kindness, meditation, that kind of stuff, they each, they kind of all do something similar, where it's, you either focus on a mantra, or you just allow, you know, it focus on your breathing and allow the thoughts to come and go. And, and that's great, right, it's, it's great to kind of have that self release, it's great to be able to, you know, have stress relief, and maybe even get to sleep easier, right? It definitely helps in the long run, it's, you know, it's like oil changes for your car. However, if your car is needing to have major work done to it, there's only so much meditation can do. And that's the separation, right is that with hypnotherapy? What we're doing is we're essentially allowing you access to that like super deep, theta wave state, which is where you're trying to get to with deep meditation, however, we use certain principles of human physiology and neurology to get you there really quick, really, when, and then we do hypnotic protocols. And it's the protocols that actually do all the change work, right? It's us basically guiding you through symbol metaphor in different guided imagery, techniques that allow you to use your imagination to cause literal neuroplastic changes in your brain. on a on a, on a literal level, about every second, you're generating 2 million new connections inside your mind. And they're all unconscious, right? Like, when you discover like a new product, or, you know, if you see a color that you've never seen before, for the first time, or whatever the case is, right? Every day, you're creating new neural pathways in your brain, and everything is connecting and becoming hardwired and firing and rewiring, right? So when you do meditation, it's all like, you know, you're here by yourself doing those oil changes. When something goes wrong, though, like you have trauma, what or maybe you have a flashback from something that happened way back in your childhood, maybe you rudiment you have limiting beliefs, you have literally that wall that plateau, where you've been doing self help courses or meditation, or, you know, you've been to therapy for years and years, I've been talking about the problem. And and for whatever reason, it never goes away. Right? That plateau? Yeah. Well, with hypnosis, the difference between guided meditation Well, what I would do is that I'm able to allow you access to into that unconscious mind and give you specific tools that will allow you to release all that to get rid of limiting beliefs to give you a clean slate so that you can start making decisions, right? And I think, Mike, if, if I'm just being kind of, you know, blunt about this, right, the ability to choose has probably been the most powerful thing that you've had out of our sessions, right? Yeah. And we can I love I love how this conversation has started off, I think, just you explaining what hypnosis is. The truth about hypnosis really gives us a launchpad into this interview is going to be super powerful for a lot of people that listen to this. And, you know, the ability to choose is everything. The ability to choose is everything. So you mentioned that, you know, if you're someone that's experienced, like trauma, either for in your life or from your childhood, so that's why I started working with you, right? I had done so much meditation, I had done so much self help stuff, worked with coaches, and that and all of those things have been amazing and very powerful. But I was just looking to get to the next step. Where you know, maybe some people don't have necessarily like deep trauma, per se. But you know, for me, I shattered my heel bone in a climbing accident. It's I've been through three surgeries. It's been incredibly traumatic, right? I had a massive like, ego death about it. I also had some stuff go down in high school, revolving like massive insecurities around women, right, that caused deep, kind of like questioning myself, right? So those things were stories that were built on for years and years and years and years. And I think this really gives a good Launchpad into kind of where this conversation is going to go today. But Or where it couldn't, where it could just naturally go. But no, we see so many people in life and, you know, our niche is high performing adventures, men at peak prosper, where we develop a really strong, strong sense of self of very strong identity. And it feels very real, because of of these storylines from our past and these experiences that have a strong emotional connection, right? This is how we form long term memories. And then, because of that memory, it replays in our head over and over and over. And what happens there, and Tim, you can correct me if I'm off base on any of this, but when these thoughts replay in our head, they develop the same emotions, right? Maybe stress, overwhelm anxiety. And because we human beings act on emotion, we start making our choices in life based on those emotions, suppose, based on those negative emotional drivers, and then we experience the results in our life from those actions. And once we do that, we say, Oh, this is just the way I am, this is the way I am because I've developed a personality based on these past experiences. And people are certain that that is the way that they are. And then it becomes their identity. And that's why people say, you know, I'm just, I'm just a night person, or I'm not a morning person, or I'm an overthinker, right? We say these things, and it's just an identity. Yep, absolutely. Yeah. No, we literally will attach whatever, whatever our storyline is with, you know, with the label that we want to carry around with us, right? Like, you know, you, you mentioned, how, while you went through some stuff, you know, some people might not have that trauma. And here's, here's the kicker, right is that a person, it may not be trauma to you, or it may not be the same trauma, right? Like we can, we can all judge each other for whatever, and then it just becomes this, you know, this competition over whose trauma is worse. Right? Ultimately, though, the real factor in all this is that it might be just a small thing, that ends up expanding out into this giant thing, right, like, and, you know, in my own personal case, I had my own insecurities around who I was, when I was young, right? I was the fact that I was bullied, I had all these problems, right? And then you take that into your adulthood. And while I haven't been bullied in, you know, I don't know, like 20 years, or whatever the case is, because I haven't gone through that, that still didn't mean that I, you know, was good with women, that still didn't mean that I had, you know, friends or whatnot that I got along with their trusted, I still had to work through a lot of that. And so it was a small thing that ended up escalating into a bigger thing. And I think that's what a lot of people go through is, because a lot of the clients I've seen, they will have a situation, or a story that they will attach all this deep meaning to about who they are, and like their identity becomes it. And then I take them all the way back to the very first time that that thing ever negatively affected them. And it had absolutely nothing to do with the original like problem, for example, right? Like one of my clients that I had, he, him and his wife were struggling in their communication. They were actually fighting almost every single day. And his thing was right. And I'm sure there's a lot of men that might, you know, feel this way, because of our societal conditioning, how were brought up, he didn't feel like he was allowed to express his emotion. He didn't believe that he was allowed to talk about who he was, what he was going through how difficult his day at work was, right? So he would come home and just clam up. here's the kicker, right? to anybody else, like a therapist or whatnot, they might talk to him about Okay, so these are some things I want you to do in in, you know, your everyday life, I want you to change, you know, how you start talking how you, you know, do the internal dialogue like, I want you to start meditating and all of that's great. All of that's fantastic. It probably would have got him really far and then he would have hit a wall. This is why so I put him deep into hypnosis into what we call it some nebulous, ik trance, which is like the working state of trance. It's like super deep, like people have hypnotic phenomenon like, their eyelids will flutter their arms and legs will be cataleptic. They'll have super deep breathing, right like or they'll have like ideomotor signaling and that can happen on a wide spectrum. But just to give pardon me, just to give a real quick like general concept of what some Nabeel ism is. It's super deep, like super, super deep and so, put them in this deep somnambulists And he ended up going back to the very first time that he ever experienced this. Come to find out, he was two years old. He was two years old. His parents had taken him over to a family like friend of the families or whatnot. They put him in this room Oh, by himself, they were out having coffee, something like that, you know, it's a two year old, like, How much? What kind of problems could he get into, he ended up finding a razor blade, and cutting his hand completely open. And as soon as he saw the blood, he started screaming and hollering and yelling. And nobody heard him because they were all the way on the other side of the house. That trigger was the thing that set up his entire relationship problems. And he carried that with him all throughout high school. I mean, this was the shy kid, he couldn't, you know, talk about who he was. And then suddenly, now he comes to see me and realizes it was that moment when he was to that one thing. So he had no idea. And I'm sure a lot of people feel that way where you've done all the work, you've done absolutely everything. And yet things are still not changing, there's still no transformation, there's no result of where you want to go, whether it's money, relationships, you know, your physical fitness, whoever you are, and then come to find out that the thing had nothing to do with it. Right. Like, I think if, if anybody were to be able to connect with that, then it would definitely be those kinds of people like the ones who struggle with meditation, or have reached that, like what you said, Mike, that like, 20%, you're at that last 20%, right? Yeah, for sure. No, absolutely. And so this, I was wondering, Tim, if we could kind of like segue into this conversation on identity. And this is really a fascinating topic, we've actually had a conversation about this kind of, in the first after the first kind of call me and you ever had together and we were actually it was recorded. Right. Um, and yeah, you know, we see a lot of really a lot of people in the world. And you know, again, I've just a lot of times, I'll just say man, high performing adventures, man, it's who we work with at peak prosper. But just this is a human condition in general, where, you know, we really develop this strong sense of self, the strong, I am identity, based on religious like, the way that we've lived our life, because we can validate that and, you know, like, I think we knew we have a bit bit of a different view on identity and the fact that it's malleable, it can change, you actually can choose it. It's not like, God didn't like stamp you on the forehead. When you're, when you're coming out of the womb. This is the way that you are, you know, right. But really, the world kind of goes in two different ways on that there's one group of people that says, nope, this is the way that you are, right, this is the way that you were born, the other group of people says, actually not you can choose. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I completely agree that you can definitely choose, you can definitely choose. And if you if you are ever questioning, like, how you can tell what your identity is, it's anything that you would use with an I am statement, like Mike was like, you know, nail on the head with that. If you say like, Oh, well, I am XYZ and most people will do this with their career, right? They'll say, Oh, I'm, I'm a stock analyst. Oh, I'm, I'm a life coach. Oh, I'm, I'm a this right. Like I even did it. I'm a hypnotherapist. Right. It's something that I've attached my identity to. And here's the problem that I think a lot of people run into, and we've talked about this Mike, where people will get so attached to that label that if anything were to happen, their world shatters, right? Like, in I think in your case, it was like, you know, I was this athletic person, I am this athletic person. And then suddenly, you had to go through two years of surgeries. And that identity of who you thought you were supposed to be was suddenly shattered. Right? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that that caused really huge existential problems for me, because I was saying, I am an adventure I am. You know, I am a world traveler. I am a skier. And when that was gone, when, for the last couple years, Nope, sorry, you shattered your tailbone. You're not going, you're not doing that anymore. That challenged my sense of self. And that's when I really started to develop a lot of self worth issues and questioning who I was. Because when that's taken away, then who are you really? Yep. I think a lot of that. I think a lot of you know, a lot of people go through that, right? They have something happened in their external world. They have an event happened in their life, their girlfriend dumps dumps them, they lose their job, their business, you know, is struggling, and then all of a sudden they're like, Well, why What's going on? It's like, shall it challenges the ego essentially? Right? Yep. Yeah, absolutely. It definitely challenges you know who you are, or who you think you're supposed to be, especially for men, right? Like, I think with men, it's really difficult or has been really difficult. Growing up it, you know, whether you're from the Midwest, or I really don't think that there's a geographical thing here, I think it's just in general, where we're starting to reach that paradigm where men are coming out and saying, like, no, like, I'm done having to put it all in a container, right? Like, I'm, I want to talk about how I feel I want to be perceived as, you know, just a human, regardless of the label, right. And that's the thing, it's a label, no matter what it's just, it's a stamp that we put on ourselves. Because we want society, whoever society is, whatever that is, we want them to be able to notice us for something more than just, you know, our, our face and our physical self, right like, and when part of that's, you know, somehow damaged in one way, shape or form, like whether that's you a person who puts all of their who they are into their business, and then it tanks are their relationship, and then, you know, goes out the window. I mean, it could be your family, like whether you're, you know, a parent who puts everything into their children. And I mean, there's, there's so many ways that this affects people that they're completely unaware of, that it can be really distorting to your reality, when a part of that's taken away, it is that attachment to the label. And that's because that thing will drive you every day like. So there's this concept called dilts, logical levels, which literally explains from the bottom up how a person will typically look at themselves from a self view, right. And I think we talked about this, the very toplet, you know, very top part of it, if you imagine it's like a pyramid or a triangle, the very top part of it is spirituality and stuff. And so I really don't talk much about that. Because for everybody, that is a very, it's a very subjective, or I'm sorry, it's a very objective viewpoint. I mean, it's all going to be different no matter what. However, right below spirituality is identity. And these are the IM statements of use. And this is the very top level for almost everybody. Because outside of spirituality, I mean, you have to believe in something higher, or else I wouldn't be able to help you with that. Right? But from from identity down, though, like that'll carry all the beliefs and the values you have around your identity, what you feel you're even capable of the way that you behave, and even the environment you're willing to put yourself in. And so through dilts, logical levels and an understanding of the identity and who a person could be, you can get a really good sense of them based on you know, the type of people that they carry with them, the, the way that they talk about themselves, the way they talk about other people the way that they view themselves, from a, like a societal view, like where do they put themselves in their own hierarchy like this through conversation, you can really get a sense of who a person's identity is. And in your line of work, like, you know, Mike, you know, Coach, you know, high performing men, and then me I do hypnotherapy for people who might have compulsive behaviors, who may have, you know, intrusive, you know, obsessive thoughts over something. And we get to the root of the problem. And oftentimes, the root of the problem is their attachment to this thing that they think they have to be. Yeah, and that's not the case at all, you get choice in that, right? Like, if it was just a label on a whiteboard, and you got a chance to wipe it away and put something else what would you put? And there are so many people, and I'm sure you you know this too, who are like, Oh, well, you know, I have to put I am a doctor because my parents said, so when really, they want to do something else, right? Like, oh, I have to be a multimillionaire because society tells me I'm not successful unless I am. Yep. And like I said, this plays into so many avenues of our life, that most people I don't think are even aware that they are being manipulated by this label. Yeah, and I will I'll just jump in right here because now we got the now we got the ball really rolling on this thing. And peep so I, so I can hear people right now listening to this thing in their head. Well, what am I What am I supposed to choose? I would say that most people and this is not a judgment. It's just the way that kind of the world works. We're going through the for going through life asleep at the wheel, we're unconscious. And so a lot of people will hear this and say, Well, okay, well, I'm going to choose. But if you're not aware, if you're not awake, to the fact of how society has been programming, you figure out your whole life. Like Tim just said, I have to be a millionaire because that's what society told me to be successful. I have to be a millionaire if I want to achieve financial freedom. I'll put my hand up right now. Financial Freedom is an a goal that I will achieve. In my life, but I don't need to be a millionaire to achieve it. It's just as much internal as it is external. So, when we are developing this new identity, we have to gain some clarity, we have to get out of our head. And this thing is like spinning. And it's telling us all this stuff about who we should be. had a conversation with someone yesterday. And she was saying to me that, you know, I don't I don't know, I don't know what I should be right. I don't know what I don't know what I want. And we put so much pressure on ourselves, because, you know, society, the way that we've been growing up, and this isn't like society, man, you know, I just say society, because it's the consciousness of the world is saying, you know, go to school, get a job, get good grades work hard save for retirement, and that's obsolete, right? That, just because the majority of people are doing that, and saying, that doesn't mean that that's the right thing for you, there is no path, right? There is no, oh my gosh, I'm gonna figure it out, and then walk these this golden staircase to, to the summit, that's not the way life goes, we have to at least first gain some mental clarity about who we are, who we want to be. And then once we do that, things will organically fall into place for us, we can develop this, alright, this is what I want. And now I know that I need to be this identity, I can choose this identity, because it lines up with the set of goals or the vision that I have. That's at least what Scott and I, we, we really think that that's like a kind of a powerful way. And I think, you know, I would love to hear you just kind of speak on that like this. Essentially, Tim, I just want a little bit of a ramble there. But essentially speaking on the fact of like, gaining clarity and like eliminating the noise from the world of telling you who you should be like, yeah, yeah, absolutely. Um, so in my own personal experience, and I'm sure like, Mike, you'll agree with me here. The The very first thing that I would suggest to anybody if they're like, yo, like, I'm okay, I'm listening. How do I how do I become aware? How do I do the damn thing? Right? Uh, pardon my French, but I mean, really, like, Yo, I'm like, they're, they're like, I'm ready to do it? Well, I think the first step is limiting the time that you spend around technology, right, like, take a day or two away from social media, take a day or two away from your Instagram away from YouTube. And really just think, whether that's writing down in a journal or maybe your vision board, like whatever, like I'm being serious, probably the most therapeutic thing you could do is probably go camping for a weekend, no electronics, no, nothing 100% in the middle of go out into the middle of nowhere, take your shoes off, put your feet literally on the ground for hours on end. And just think, and that that pride right there will get you so much clarity and focus, because instead of the outside societal constraints, it'll allow you the ability to be more aware of who you are, without that noise, right. And if you want that next step, let's say you're doing that you're like, Alright, Timothy, I'm, I'm going camping right now, what's the next step? So you want to get rid of the noise in your head, there's this really awesome technique that you can do. And it works with something called sub modalities. And the sub modalities in your brain essentially are the way that your mind encodes and decodes memories. Right now, I want you to think about something you absolutely love, maybe a really good memory, something happy. And when you do that, you'll either have some type of like visual, like a picture or a moving, you know, like a movie reel, you probably have some type of audio, maybe like a voice or you can hear like, you know, some type of dialogue, or maybe you just straight feeling an emotion, and you can feel it somewhere on your body so much so that if you're going to look for the emotion, you can point to it, either of those, whatever the case is, your your brain is doing that through the modalities of either the visual, the auditory, or the kinesthetic representational systems, these are the way that you not only remembers things, but it's also how when you want to pull a memory up that you remember it. And so what, what this means is, is that if you picture a color, like a red apple, and you see the red apple, you can identify with what the red apple is, we're about to make a full circle here. Stay tuned, so you can see what the red apple is. However, if you were to change that to a blue Apple, would it have a different feeling? Would it have a different emotion attached to it? So when you're looking at your memories from this aspect of like, okay, so if they're just like, the way that I see things, like maybe it's black and white, or color, or maybe it's really big or really small, or if you hear things it might be the volume is really loud or really low, it sounds like you know, really heavy bass or maybe it's just like a light speaking voice, whatever the case is, there are going to be little nuances that are unique to every single person. So if you want to get rid of the noise in your head, first you have to be able to ID Identify what it is, is that a picture? Is it a dialogue or is it an emotion. And then when you do that, I want you to intentionally change something about it. So if it's a picture, I want you to, in your mind, use your imagination, quite literally, use your imagination and push it super far away, like super super far away. If it's audio, I want you to imagine that you can turn it all the way down, and then turn it all the way down. And if it's a feeling or an emotion, use your imagination and pretend that in some way, shape or form, you pull it out of your body, and maybe you like throw it out the window or something. And then I want you to start thinking about something that you would rather have. So you got rid of the noise, now we need to replace it. So now think about something that you would rather have like, maybe you want to go to Africa, or maybe you want to become an airline pilot, whatever the case is, think about that thing. And then add some aspects of cool stuff to it. Like if you're a visual person, then maybe add a lot of color to it. Make it really bright and vivid. So it's like wow in your face. If it's audio maybe crank the volume up, change the way that the pitches in the tambor if it's an emotional type of thing like it kinesthetic, maybe inject like your favorite memory into it or something that makes you feel really good, like a puppy or a kitten or something, whatever the case is, your unconscious mind would know best. So you would be the one to put it in, it's gonna be unique for every single person. When you do that, you will get rid of the noise. And you'll be able to start focusing on the things that you want most. And how it works is through some modalities, your brain is literally encoding and decoding your sensory organs in the way that you perceive memory through this stuff. So by changing it and manipulating it, using your imagination in your mind, you will immediately start making new perceptual change, you know, changes both internally and externally, things won't have the same flavor of lemon, so to speak, like, if you wanted to change the flavor of a lemon, you through hypnosis, I would just take you in, have you you know change the color of it, maybe have you dial back the way that you would normally sense how it tastes. And then by doing that, quite literally, you are changing on a neurological and a biochemical level, you are changing the way that you would start to understand and perceive that thing, whether that's, you know, having the noise in your head that won't stop or maybe the image or the movie reel that you can't get to slow down. Changing the sub modalities allows you immediate access into the way that the memories encoded. And so that is probably one of the quickest ways to do it. I know that was long winded. I appreciate the patience. No, no, I was actually just kind of sitting there and just taking that in. And this is why we shoot these. Well. This is actually the first interview that I've shot the first expert interview. But this is why it's so valuable to tap into someone I mean, that tool right there super powerful. Someone can go and pause this video and then go do that literally right now, if you are actually someone right now, that's huge, probably should just be off technology in general. just pause this and just go lay down in your room and go do that. Go do that right now. I do these types of Tim, you taught me essentially self hypnosis, these visualization experiences where I attach emotion to it and really visualize what I want, like what I do want rather than focusing on, you know, what's missing, what's wrong, what are the problems, right. And it's been powerful. I mean, I just I just do it every day. Now. It's just a part of my it's a part of my part of my routine. And these tools, and techniques and strategies and principles. They work. They really, really, really work. And, you know, over the last few years, I've just pretty much become obsessed about really understanding the mind and this thing. It's either going to be your servant, or your master. You choose, you choose. And I know that when I've been the servant, I'm confused, I'm overwhelmed. I'm stressed out, I'm negative. I'm anxious. I hate people. Sometimes I'll hate myself, right? Like, you know what I mean? You just you buy into the negative consciousness of the world. And you fall into line and just, you know, do I guess this is what I just have to do you know what I mean? Where when this thing becomes a master, right? You can master your life, you can do the things that you really want to do. And then you also show up from a place of feeling like love and love and peace. I mean that for me, it's like, I'd much rather feel like loving and peaceful than it stressed out and negative. I've been on both sides. I've been on both sides. And this thing, you know, with there are the tools and strategies out there to significantly improve your life and get what you want. And I think that's the that's why I love talking to you, Tim because you can do it. You know what I mean? You can do it and I just I love that. Yeah, absolutely. I definitely. I love what you said. there about How you can either be the servant or you know, you can be the master of it right. And I think a lot of people, they don't really understand this, however, I'm going to let a little secret and for all the people who are wondering about like marketing and advertising and stuff, there's a hypnotic principle that is create an emotion give a suggestion, I won't go into detail about how it works or why it works or what it is, just know that any time you are put into a position of a changed emotion, like, if you can imagine that movie inside out from Pixar, we love to say that, like, you know, sponsorship here. Right, right. Yeah, say no. So, Pixar, they created this, like, move on inside out, which is like, where each of these like little tiny characters are, like that person's emotion. And they kind of like, jump on the controls and take things over, right? Well, there is this concept called parts therapy, it's ego, it's either called ego state therapy, parts therapy, resource therapy, there's, there's so many different names for it. But it's all essentially the same, right? That each of us have parts, you have a part of you, for example, that tells you when you're hungry, you have a part of you that you know, tells you Hey, like it's time to go to bed, you have a part of you that is probably different from the way that you would interact with, you know, maybe like your pets like dog or cat, and the way that you'd show up to work, right? Like, you wouldn't want the one that loves all the puppies and rainbows and everything to show up if you're like an executive CEO or something like that, right? Like, of course. So we each have these different parts. Well, when you create an excited emotion in somebody, whatever that part is, that is most relative to that is going to be the one that shows up, right? So for example, this is where the whole concept of like attaching an emotion like what Mike was mentioning earlier, attaching emotion to something that you want in the future. The reason why is because there's a part of you that wants that. And the more good things you stack on top of it, the more resources that you give that part, the more apt it is to actually go into that control center of your mind, to to help you guide you along the path and journey you want. Right? So for some people, the negative emotions are a lot stronger than the positive ones. And those are the ones that are in control. And so, you know, nobody in this world wants to go to bed, angry, and nobody wakes up. Like I want to know how angry I can be today. Like Nobody does that. Like it's so taxing. It is so taxing to be mad at something all the time. Oh, and there are so many people who are doing it right now, who five years ago, some guy said something to them, that is just set them off. And now that's the only thing they can think about. And that guy probably has no clue that he set you off on a five year tangent of Oh shitsville. Right, like the prop. The problem is, though, is that a lot of us will fixate on that thing. And that ego state that part shows up and takes full control. Right. So you know, when we're talking about identity and attaching an emotion to it right? When marketing and advertising people to come full circle. When marketing and advertising people put out sensationalized headlines that immediately strike a nerve with you make you mad, make you fearful make you feel guilty, they are preying on some of your most primitive ego states, some of your most sensitive parts, because those are the parts of you. Those are the parts of you that have yet to be healed from childhood. Those are the parts of you that are the easiest to grasp a hold of because most of us have not had the ability to sit down in a wooded forest somewhere out in the middle of nowhere with our feet off. We've been behind a desk, you know, even since before COVID we've been behind a desk for damn near 80% of our work week working for someone else hate in our life. I mean, this is a majority of America, this a majority of my clients 80% of Americans report hating their job. Right. And so we don't have the time, especially because wages, there's such a huge discrepancy with wages, there's, you know, a huge discrepancy with people's health, like, you know, so overall, when a marketer advertiser puts up that sensationalized headline, they know that if they say, hey, you're ugly, by our product, you are more than likely going to allow that part to jump in and go, I should probably buy that product, because they're reminding you of something that you're insecure about something you judge yourself on. They're prying on you. And so and Tim, you know, quick just jump in real quick. If anyone sitting here saying or what news would that be? All new all. Oh, those news, all news. Just Just news like, you know, like this, this person shot dead in your neighborhood five years ago, and now you go Oh, that's Scary. And then suddenly, it's like, well, they're probably going to feed you something like, Oh, we need to support this thing or that thing, or we need to do this or vote for this person, like, and then you take it on. And you're like you tell you're like virtuous about it. And it's like your identity. And then I stand for this, you know, and then anything that goes against that, which could have some validity, by the way, yeah, yeah, we're anti that, and then you're anti those people, and then you become judgmental. And then you become the very thing that you said that you didn't want to be in the first place. So anyways, keep going. But that's, that's the way it works. That's the way it works. Yeah. Yeah. So that's, that's literally how it works. That's why people can become so like, you know, volatile when their sports team loses. Like, it's like when their sports team loses suddenly, now they're flipping cars, they're setting houses on fire, and it has absolutely nothing to do with them, it has to do everything with their identity, and the fact that there's probably something from their past that they are fearful of, like, Oh, I have to identify with this team, because I wasn't good enough in football or because you know, I, I don't have enough money, because I'm not with the like, there's so many, you know, I want and then they'll attach identity is something that has nothing to do with it, because it helps satisfy some intention, you know, that's there, right? And so, coming full circle, now, the parts in your identity, you can still change those, you can you have a choice in this. So even though you might have a part that's fearful, I mean, imagine it's, it's like a five year old you, right? Like every time like that fearful part of you comes out or the judgment part or the guilty part, right? Imagine it's like a five year old you that shows up with their little blankie and their teddy bear. And they're looking at you like mom and dad. And it's like, you know, hey, like, I'm, I'm really afraid that that might happen to my kids one day, or like, Hey, I'm really afraid that if you did this thing that you wouldn't love me anymore, right? What would you say to your son or daughter, if they came to you and said those things, it would probably be the most loving, compassionate kind, like, like self worth, like you are worthy of anything you want talk, you would probably win a Nobel Peace Prize for the speech you gave that child Yeah, right. And then yet, when that part that you comes to your, you know, comes to you, and it needs that aid, and you just pitch it to the side, or you decide, you know what, I'm going to go ahead and just go get drunk with the boys tonight. Or I'm going to go ahead and you know, drown my sorrows in video games, or gambling or food or whatever it is. When you do that, you're literally pushing that five year old to the side and saying, I'm too busy for you right now. And what happens is to go full circle with like what Mike mentioned about that pressure valve, what happens is that every single time you kick that five year old you out and say not right? Now, they will come back. And they will remind you of that time, and every other subsequent time that you've done that, and that'll become that voice in your head. And then that five year old, you will start throwing a tantrum and things will get bad. And that's when your life starts going downhill. And yet the same pattern gets repeated, where suddenly now you identify as this bad person or this thing that happened five, 620 years ago. And suddenly now, there's a marketing or an advertiser who is reminding you of your identity, society is reminding you social media is reminding you, and then suddenly, you're on this negative spiral down where you don't even know who you are. Because who am I? If not this five year old, this thing that happened? How can I rise to want all these things, if I'm not even this five year old, suddenly, now you're in despair. And that's when you would seek someone like Mike or me out, right. And that's because we know on a deep level, we just have to get you to talk to that five year old. And to have them let it all go, just let loose. Because once that happens, that pressure about literally will pop open. And you will feel this lightness that you've never felt before. And that's because you're what's happening is your brain is attaching your identity of yourself now, or anything in the future to that past event. And that is taking energy that is taking so much energy as magian if if your brain was working as hard towards your goals, as it is thinking about that conversation with Bill five years ago, they picked you off, right? Imagine how powerful how much awesome your life would be. Imagine how awesome your life would be five years. All that time you spent from five years ago thinking about that stupid shit, if suddenly now it's five years in the future and the only thing your brain thought about is how much money can I make? How awesome can I become who can I inspire? What things can I do with my life? How many people can i impact there's So many things that if your brain using all that energy think about five years ago, put itself into use instead, just think of in five years how much you would accomplish, thinking in five years how much you could accomplish if all that energy was going into something more than what it is right now. Right. And the only way you can release that pressure valve, the only way is by accessing the unconscious mind. Because that is where all your past memories, your beliefs, the way that you view yourself, your identity, the way that you perceive your past, those conversations that you've had that you just can't seem to get rid of that five year old you lies in your unconscious mind. That little five year old you that part of you that just wants to be heard is actually and this is from Jay Watkins and walkins. Paul for during these are psychologist Dr. Gordon Emerson, these guys are legit psychologists, doctors who have wrote about this, quite literally that five year old you that part of you that just needs healed is hard wired into your brain, there is a physical structure, they could follow that those neurons do a specific clump of little pieces of whatever in your in that meet that you call brain, there's a physical structure that would have fires, that is that five year old part coming out and saying, hey, look at me, there's some signal going on, I need attention, I need help. And then you push it to the side because of x, y, z. Right? It's, it's you, you'd have to heal that part of you. And the only way you can do that is by accessing the unconscious mind. When you do you run the protocol is you have the right technique done for you. Like, suddenly, it's like that pressure valve, boom, all that energy that was stored from holding on to that bullshit gets released. And now for everyone who's like, Oh, my gosh, so what if I don't have the the motivation or the inspiration? Where do you think that is way back here that you've been holding on to like, you've got to let that go. Because when you let go of the attachment to who you were, you suddenly are given a clean slate to choose who you want to be. Because now you have the energy to do it, you now have the energy to perceive life from a completely different realm of I didn't even freaking know that that was a possibility. Because you've let go with a story, you've let go of who you thought you were, that five year old you is now healed, that physical structure in your brain can now be utilized for something even better. And on top of that, you've accessed the unconscious mind. Meaning that it'll be easier to get into because it's a skill. Once you've been in trance once you'll be able to go back there immediately. Because it's a skill that you learn to do, that you've been doing your whole life. Whether that's, you know, having highway hypnosis, where suddenly you Daydream and don't know how you even got home, when you watch a movie. And suddenly two hours pass by when you're doing your favorite activity and get into flow state, all of that is a trance like state. Now that you're aware of it, you can start finding more ways and easier ways to get to get there. Because it's there. It's there, that you're in the unconscious mind. And at that point, it's like, you know, as Anthony Jackman would say, reality's plastic. So it's at that point that your brain becomes neuro plastic, and you can change what you want. Oh, man, on fire, who that was, that was hot fire. That was really, really, really important. And I would challenge anyone that's listening to this right now to go back and listen to the last five minutes because that is life changing information. The goal here is to achieve consciousness, you need to become a conscious person. Right? I and a lot of us are just unconscious. And I'll just say one quick story, too. We'll actually I'll just this is just want to make sure I would, I could potentially hear people right now saying like, so. So every so like everything is from my childhood, like so I have to like now I have to like go and analyze like me, like five years old. That's not necessarily what you mean, correct? You're just talking. You're just using that as an analogy of a specific time period in life where something happened to you. Right? Yeah, absolutely. Like the story I mentioned earlier about the, you know, the guy having the the memory from when he was two. I mean, anybody, I'm sure it would be difficult for you to think of a memory from when you were two, however, his unconscious mind was holding on to that. And it was easily to be accessed because of the the energy attachment to that thing. For you. It might have been, oh, this thing happened when I was a teenager. Or maybe I got into a car crash when I was a late adult. And that's suddenly still the thing that you hold on to what? Whatever the case is, right? It I'm not saying that it's always going to be a five year old, it's going to be some part of you that gives a signal because that's all your body does, right? If you step on a Lego because Legos frickin hurt. If you step on a Lego your body goes, Hey, that's painful, right? You put your hand on a hot oven you go, it goes, Hey, that's painful, right? It's a signal. It's just feedback. And so if you start looking at the negative stuff that's going on in your mind, right? Like somebody said something mean to you five years ago, I keep using that example, but whatever. It's like, oh, what am I talking about? Does he have problems? But no, like, whatever the case is, you're right. It's whatever the case is. If you're thinking about it continuously, if it's a thought that just doesn't seem to go away, you're giving it attention and you're putting your energy there. And you're it's hold, you're holding on to that thing. So that could be from anything. I mean, it could be, you know, like I mentioned a car crash or something traumatic, whatever the case is, it's just a signal. It's your job. Because it's you like, who else is it right? You're going to know what your signals are. And so it's just like Mike mentioned, being a conscious being, being self aware, and aware enough to be self aware of what's going on in your mind, instead of just letting the monkey's out loose, right? You got to got to put them in order. So okay, so, you know, why am I thinking of this thing? Not so much the Why? Because why can keep you stuck, but instead, use out what caused this thing to happen? Use a word or a how a processing question. So what causes thing to happen, because when you're aware of your triggers, you can start figuring out the puzzle pieces of how that may be showed up, you can rework this thing to the way that you want it to be, rather than just allowing the system to just run unconsciously. Yep, I would just share a kind of a closing note here to tie this all in. There is a guy in our program and our transformation program. And he was following that pattern that you're talking about, make some growth and then hit that plateau, and then drop back down and then make some growth hit that plateau and drop back down. He couldn't figure out why is this happening? And on one of our live calls, I broke it down for him essentially, right? So he had these, he would make growth. And he's like, dude, when I'm making growth, I feel awesome. I'm feeling confident, I'm feeling successful. I'm working towards my goals. And then he goes, I always like sabotage myself back down. And I'm like, I just can't understand why. And I said, What do you have against successful people? He goes, What do you mean? I said, What What do you have against successful people? And he goes, you know, he goes, Well, like, successful people are confident, and that's someone that I want to be, but like, my mom always told me when growing up that, you know, never become you never show confidence because confidence is, that's what cocky people do. And cocky people are never successful, right? And so every time that he wound up making growth in his life, right, he would start to feel confident. And because he has that internal judgment, he judges successful people for how they show up in the world. Subconsciously, he sabotages himself back down to where he thinks he should be. And then you boom, you hit that bottom level, and you get all freaked out against you got to grind back up to the top, but he couldn't break through that plateau level. And this is exactly what Tim is talking about here. These limiting beliefs that come from these storylines from our past, but we take them on as real. And you know, it's like our identity, right? And it's like, Nah, you know, I can't be that guy. Because of, you know, I'm not that guy. Because bla bla bla, bla bla, right, come up with all these excuses and storylines. But they're just stories. Like, they're literally just stories that we get fed to us, either from the media from our parents, and I love them. I love my parents, pears are amazing people. But the point of this is that you will be programmed, whether you're aware of it or not. And the key is to be aware. Right? And when people you know, people can say things to you. And then once you're aware as I am now, I don't need that, like someone says, oh, you're ugly. Oh, okay, whatever, let it go. Yeah. But if you're unconscious, and then you say, someone says, hey, you're ugly, and then you take that on, oh, my God, I am an ugly person. Right? And it sucks. And you feel that pain and that sadness on the inside the emotions, and then that becomes your identity. Or maybe I am an ugly person. And then you look for experiences in your external world to validate that, you know, oh, that girl didn't look at me. I looked at that girl and smiled. She didn't look at me I am ugly. And then you're just programming yourself. And absolutely, this conversation gives people I really hope that this conversation gives people some huge breakthroughs. Tim, you've shared some incredible knowledge and wisdom and I will just ask this final question. Here is where can people find you? Where can people connect with you if they want to learn more about what you do and and maybe how you could help them or even just a chat? Like how can people connect with you? Yeah, absolutely. Thank you so much, Mike. I really appreciate the the ability to you know, kind of pitch myself here. Quick note, you're 100% right about that unconscious thing. I mean, that's why like children are so easy like you could tell a child and this is from my mentor Mike Mendell, you can tell a child to go out and and look outside in the hallway because there's a dragon that has candy. And you know, as an adult, there's no dragon out there with candy, right, but you tell a five year old that they probably believe it. Well, what happens is that children are so malleable between the ages of zero and seven during an imprint stage. Because they're looking to their parents, they're looking to their their peers, their uncles or cousins, whoever to give them validation of who they are. Right? This is the early stages of building that identity. And they're all unconscious. It's completely unconscious when they're doing this. They have no clue they know most of them. struggle with remembering You know, we're even acknowledging that they have an ego or an identity or anything like that. So that's why a lot of people when I talk about childhood trauma, a lot of people have these issues in their childhood. And that's because of that unconsciousness that young children seem to have, where they do take stuff on as though it's reality. And that's why we question it going way into the future as an adult, because suddenly now we're going well, where did I learn that, and it's all learned. That's what you can unlearn this stuff to go from unconscious to conscious, you're literally unlearning how to be what society programmed you to be. Instead, you're becoming the person that you want to be your own internal programming, right. And so if this resonates with you, if you would love to speak to either Mike, or myself, because Mike is incredible, if you haven't had the chance to talk to Mike, you need to talk to this guy, he will change your life, especially if you're an adventurous, a high achieving high performing man. If you love to climb love to bike, if you love to do awesome, adventurous stuff, talk to this guy, he will change your life. And if you want to work on unconscious stuff, whether you have rudimentary, like, you know, super, like upsetting thoughts about you know who you are, if you give so much time and energy to your past or past, you know, thoughts. If you have a compulsive behavior, maybe you you know, pick at your eyebrows or you know, if you struggle with having social, you know, anxiety or whatever the case is, because there's probably something that you have no clue how to fix. You're at that 20% and it's like, geez, I just wish this thing would go away. I'm the person you need to talk to. Yeah, you can find me at the world needs you now.com you can also find me at Timothy September calm. That website will be launching fairly soon. The world needs you now is my main placement. So just the world needs you now calm. If you want to talk to me on Facebook, add me as a friend. I would love to talk with you. You can find [email protected]ok.com slash Timothy September 86. Again, that's facebook.com slash Timothy September 86. And once again, Mike dude, thank you so much, man. You are an incredible human like you're one of my favorite humans. You're so inspirational. And I'm, I'm so stoked to get a chance to do this. Thank you. Yeah, man. Right back at you. You definitely have had a profound impact on my life for sure. so profound. Yeah, so thank you so much. You've dropped some serious knowledge bombs. I'm glad that we did this today, man. I really am. And don't forget people just breathe. Alright. Just Just breathe, breathe. Breathe and go in the woods. Yeah, man. Put your feet in the ground like seriously that stuff? It's so therapeutic. Yeah, right on. Alright, Tim, let's wrap this one up here. And again, thank you so much for your time and wisdom and happy days. Always happy days. Alright, peace.